brucesprings said:She tells me she will leave me when the youngest moves out in three years and she will take everything I got.

What she is saying is she is not appreciated. Women explode and vent, and project a storyline they saw or heard on desperate housewives. Laugh at her and say under your breath,"I'll never let her leave." Give her something to think about. "Does he love me or is he planning to kill the whole family?????" Women need things to occupy their minds as they are always going on tangents.

brucesprings said:[Her mom is a selfish biach who lives 180 miles away from us but expects my wife or her sister to come and pick her up and drive her to the gambling boat which is 100 miles back towards our house and then drive her back home because she only drives to the store and back. Her mom just turned 70 and is worth a good amount of cash but I don't want to miss out on getting some of that cash since it has cost me a lot in gas and wear and tear on vehicles driving Miss Daisy around.

Dude, ya got to get along with the in-laws. Don't have an opinion about her Ma-Ma. When around in-laws always think 7 times before speaking and then just don't speak. Its a skill.

brucesprings said:
What also pisses me off is my wife stayed home with the kids for 14 years after we got married and since she started back working has had jobs with no benefits and now she wants my retirement money like she earned it.

She has a right to that and after staying home for 14 years how the he&& is she going to get a good job. Keep it real. If you don't have in demand skills, you can't get a good gig with bennys. Those days are over. Come on dude. Don't blame her for having a crappy gig!

Here's my RX: Classic Lou Rawls

Cheapoking said:SUCKISSTAPLES BTW one strategy not mentioned thus far is to establish residency , while still married, in a country which favors the man. I would imagine men dont get screwed as bad anywhere in latin america, asia or the middle east.


Now you Sir, have my devote attention. Please explain? Thank you.

Pack your burka we're moving to Saudi Arabia.

What's that you want a divorce? I'll consider giving you permission for that and let you know in a few years.

Man, I can't believe people in these forums are actually offering advice to help the OP.

Let me get this straight... She stays home and takes care of your children for 14 years, sacrificing time, energy, money, and career advancement. Whens she goes back to work, of *course* she doesn't get benefits, she gave up the last fourteen years supporting you and your family and not gaining experience and working her way up the job ladder (like you were able to because of her). Now when you divorce, you don't want to give her her fair share of what you built together. I'm sure she'd like to take back the thousands of unpaid hours of cooking meals, doing laundry, cleaning, and taking care of children, but she can't convert that into debit cards or gold coins and hide them from you, can she?

And not only that, after you divorce, you want money from her family when one of them dies? Because your mother-in-law rode around in your car? It's no wonder she wants to divorce you.

RS4Rings said:Do you introduce her as "My future ex-wife"?I was wondering, if a wedding is called off, is there a term for "ex future MIL"?

mercutio34 said:Man, I can't believe people in these forums are actually offering advice to help the OP.

Let me get this straight... She stays home and takes care of your children for 14 years, sacrificing time, energy, money, and career advancement. Whens she goes back to work, of *course* she doesn't get benefits, she gave up the last fourteen years supporting you and your family and not gaining experience and working her way up the job ladder (like you were able to because of her). Now when you divorce, you don't want to give her her fair share of what you built together. I'm sure she'd like to take back the thousands of unpaid hours of cooking meals, doing laundry, cleaning, and taking care of children, but she can't convert that into debit cards or gold coins and hide them from you, can she?

And not only that, after you divorce, you want money from her family when one of them dies? Because your mother-in-law rode around in your car? It's no wonder she wants to divorce you.

Not to help the OP or anybody else for the matters, but why are you so sure that she indeed did or was part of any of what you've mentioned?

But again, there is always a second side to the story.

At this point the only way to hide the money in an untraceable form is by dumping it into uncut diamonds. The round-trip transaction costs are likely to be 20%.

1. Marry only someone who has an open mind about threesomes.

2. To have and to hold, for the next five years, with option to renew...

brucesprings said:What set most of this off was now she complains that the job I currently have sucks and I don't make enough money. But what happened was I used to run a warehouse for 20 years working mostly 50 or more hours a week and getting paid a decent amount so she could stay home with the kids. I lost that job since it was a family owned business and the owner died and now I am slowly working my way up (with only a high school education)in the corporate world. So to be ridiculed for what I make now pisses me off along with her not giving a damn about the way she spends money aimlessly knowing we are cash strapped has caused most of this. She wants to be rich and she knows her only chance is thru her mom passing so she has become very good friends with her since her step father passed away a couple years ago.

I can totally understand you being pissed off, but it's best to find out her 'true colors' now before you are retired and cant make any of it back.Sounds like you don't have alot of cash(due to the wife complaining) so what are you worried about? Beat her to the punch and DIVORCE her NOW, so thats 3 years of money she can't get.It's like she is saying she is going to kill you in 3 years, and you still stick around? Otherwise and MARK my words on this she is going to use the next 3 years to 'setup' the Divorce, maybe even she will call the cops and say to them you beat her, just to make you look bad in court.Ever heard of 'Sleeping' with the enemy?

RS4Rings said:brucesprings said:She tells me she will leave me when the youngest moves out in three years and she will take everything I got.
Have to ask this.. Hows your two sex life? Comments like that have to put a little damper on it

LOL...sounds like it will get significantly better in about 3 years...