posted: Mar. 31, 2006 @ 11:30a
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Yes, ethics. In the words of our founder, “Free stuff is great, and finding free stuff is half the fun. Actually receiving it is the other half. As you know, many free offers have restrictions that limit the offer to business owners, doctors, dentists, (insert other profession here). Please give the free offers some thought before applying for them. If you don't qualify for it, don't request it. Not eligible? Please pass... leave the freebie for someone that is eligible. I'm not going to pass judgment on anyone, just making a request that I think will benefit us all."
Expectations of Forum Tone & Behavior
You want more? Okay, I'll explain.
Be nice because it promotes better discussion. When people feel attacked they get defensive. The topic gets derailed onto personal issues, and productive discussion ends. Nobody wins here.
If you were sending a friend or family member to the forums, how would you want them to be treated?
Stick to the topic. Criticize the argument but not the individual. If you have a strong case, there's no need to attack the other person's character to make your point.*
And let me be clear, personal attacks aren't just direct namecalling. These are all attacks to the intelligence and character of the poster and not acceptable:
- "Even you can understand this."
- "Let me put this in simple terms you can understand."
- "Only an idiot would think that."
- "I think I lost IQ points just reading that."
- "I will not dignify that nonsense with a response."
Be respectful and bring value to the conversation. Explain your criticism. Differences of opinion are great! ...if both sides take the time to explain themselves. Don't just have a duck season/rabbit season argument.
- "I hate to burst your bubble, but that hard drive has gotten some pretty terrible reviews: Link"
- "Good price, but mine broke after a week"
- "Found it cheaper here: Link"
- "Rebate kills this deal. Company XYZ is notorious for not honoring their rebates."
- "I'll have to disagree. In my experience..."
- "Really? I was just reading this article that says the exact opposite..."
Want to avoid the drama and running afoul the moderation team? I'll let you in on this simple, time-tested strategy:
Be more polite than you think is necessary.
*Excellent video discussing "What You Said vs. Who You Are". Hint: You want to be having the first conversation.
It has examples specific to discussing race, but the basic principle applies to any conversation.