[Alive] eHarmony Codes - Updated

Edited by antidentite: the Moderator's want to keep this thread alive, although I'm no longer actively updating it here since I havent used this site in years - I've been married for a year now and no, I didn't meet her on eharmony!

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the question is did you meet your GF on eHarmony??

if so, then this could really be a hot deal for some.

is this a new logitech remote?

Unfortunately I didnt meet my gf on eHarmony, but I did have a pretty good overall experience with eHarmony... I'd say it's one of the better dating sites out there since it's much more private, the system automatically matches you with 'compatible' mates so you dont have to scroll through thousands of pictures (some obviously fake), and the communication stages are handy.

The downsides would be the price, and the fact that I've heard some people have a lot of matches, some dont.

My advice: If you want to get the most amount of matches, make sure your answers on the personality profile arent too extreme. If the questions asks you to rate something on a scale of 10, go for 4, 5, or 6 - never 1 or 10.

Hope this helps!

i've had about 10 eHarmony dates and got laid by 8 of those dates. well worth the 33 bucks

By the way, i slept in a holiday inn express last night.

j/k

I actually met my boyfriend on match.com. I would never have considered it except that a few ladies that I work with (one 56 yrs old and one 22 yrs old) were on match.com and having a great time. They talked me into it. I'm not bad looking and can be sort of fun , as a result I had so many responses that I couldn't get to them all. I went out with someone new every night and sometimes two a day on the weekends. Dating is exhausting! I met tons of nice people and every date was pleasant and interesting. After about six weeks on match.com I met my boyfriend...the rest is history. We've been together for over three years and just finished picking out rings. A neighbor of mine (very attractive, nice girl) also met her now-husband on match.com. I think anyone interested in dating a variety of people and having a good time should try it at least once.

PS- I've heard from a guy friend of mine that he prefers other online dating sites (over e-harmony). With e-harmony you have to jump through hoops and then answer a bunch of questions via email from potential matches, it can be days before you even get to see their photo. That's a lot of work up-front to finally see a photo...I'm not superficial but I believe physical attraction is important...I prefer to see a photo so that we can get that out of the way up front and then figure out the other stuff.

ravi105 said: Pimpee said: i've had about 10 eHarmony dates and got laid by 8 of those dates. well worth the 33 bucks

By the way, i slept in a holiday inn express last night.


I thought this site matched hetrosexuals only.

lol, funnee, funnee. Takes me back to my high school days. Man I loved the unPC era.

8 of 10, wow, u r unbelievably good, everyone may have a totally diff experience, for the last two months, I have used Yahoo, EHarmony, Match.com, True, and Cupid Junction, I put up the same ad and pic on all. I am a 50yo male, I received five to seven times more action on Cupid Junction, of which a portion of those came from AOL and Date.Com, which could explain why I got more attention on CJ as there appears to be some networking.
But this was just my personal experience, and could have to do with my age group.

Knives said: Eharmony sure has some ugly poeple in that ad they do on tv!

Why else do you think they have such good results?

ScrawneyWallet said: Fatwallet should start a dating forum. Imagine if 2 Fatwalleters hooked up!? They'd be broke and have thousands of dollars in pending rebates tied up every month!

hahaha!

ScrawneyWallet said: Fatwallet should start a dating forum. Imagine if 2 Fatwalleters hooked up!? They'd be broke and have thousands of dollars in pending rebates tied up every month!

I suggested it a few months back...somehow I don't think they were interested

GOOD GOD I WOULD NOT PAY $49 TO GET A DATE. Don't have to.

As a newbie, was surprised NOT to see a FW singles area. Could even replace the wildly-popular Product Reviews board

My vote goes to Yahoo personals.

I met my fiance on that site. From what he tells me,(and he's not lied to me yet- that I know of, hehe) he was going to cancel his membership on the very day that yahoo sent him my pic and profile. A few of his friends persuaded him to go ahead and contact me. He had some 'varied' experiences with people from that site, but no worse than real life.

Way back then (three years ago) internet dating was taboo around here- Midwest Hicksville. We still haven't told his family how we really met, but that's okay with me. I like keeping a few secrets,'specially from potential in-laws.

I did pay for a membership to date.com also. It might have changed since then, but I wasn't real impressed.

Might have just been a lucky glitch with yahoo though, I still get stuff from them, and most of the guys appear to be goobers.

"I like kittens and walks in the rain." Give me a break.

...a good looking woman can have pretty much whoever she wants ?? Really?? Guys...true?? I mean, geeeeezz....me n' my 40-ish single gal friends are no spring chickens anymore but we clean up pretty good. Did you mean to say good-looking-hot-young-thing? Or are we females so self-esteem challenged we don't know the power we have?

i will try it

I've heard Dr. Neal Clark Warren speak. EHarmony is based on a noble idea, but I think it sucks in practice.

So, Dr. Warren tells us, over 50% of marriages end in divorce. Upon post-mortem inspection, the reason most marriages failed was that the 2 people should never have gotten married in the first place. Fundamentally incompatible people made a decision based heavily on emotion, not reason, and the ultimate result was predetermined. Modern psychology studies show that the marriages that have succeeded the best are those where both partners are most similar in personality, says Dr. Warren. Enter eharmony. Why not have the computer do a personality test on everyone, and only match people whose personality is the same? There might be a hundred people in your area of your age, etc., enrolled, but have the computer only match you to the handful of people whose personality is the same as yours. Then, whoever you choose, you're bound to have a successful marriage. This will do society a great benefit, as people will be spared the hurt of failed relationships, kids won't have fighting parents, etc. A noble idea.

First problem is, I don't trust the psychology studies. To me, common sense is that you want a partner with some similarities and some differences in personality. There have been a lot of bogus psychology result in the past, IMHO, and my alarms go off anytime a study starts contradicting common sense. I know of at least one relationship speaker that specifically advocates personality differences. (Might have been "Light Her Fire" tapes - don't recall.) She talks about how she is rather flighty, but her husband is down-to-earth. If she were married to someone flighty, and came home from work, "You won't BELIEVE what HAPPENED! WHAT AM I GOING TO DO?????", and her fictional husband replied, "I DON'T KNOW!!! OH NOOOOOO!!!", she'd be in a mess. Instead, her rational hubby replies, "Calm down, it will be okay. The earth will still be here tomorrow. Let's take a minute and look at this a little." On the other hand, if one partner is high energy, always wanting to go out and do things, and the other just wants to sit at home, you've got a mess. Here you want similarity. I like my own personality a lot, but wouldn't want to be married to someone who is exactly the same. I really would appreciate some differences. But I do agree that total opposites are usually headed for disaster. So, without seeing the studies for myself, I think the concept is flawed from the start. I only met one person from my eharmony membership. We met one time, and afterward she wanted to break it off, because, as she put it, "we're just too much alike". I would have met with her a few more times, but I knew exactly what she was saying, and had to agree.

But I think the biggest problem with the site is that it takes up so much of your time per match, only to find that the person is not compatible. Good websites make you fill out a bunch of information about yourself for your profile. You can then scan other people's profiles up front, weeding out those that won't work, and concentrating on those that seem like a good fit. So you can immediately start communicating with your best options, with no wasted time. EHarmony tells you almost nothing about the other person up front, and I wound up wasting hours and hours writing to people only to find out that they were someone I'd never consider for marriage, if I had just know a few basics up front. There are a lot of show-stoppers besides personality, even if eharmony were right on the personality thing. So it was a big time investment, for a very small return. My time on other sites was much better spent - hitting only those that I was interested in, and skipping those that wouldn't work.

Many other problems, hopefully some of these are fixed by now - I was a member one time several years ago. Site response was very slow. Also had lots of large pictures making pages loads very slow at 56K dialup. Had a terrible mail interface. Instead of getting a list of your messages, it had a strange interface, where it would stack messages to/from a member on top of one another. So if you click on mail from Judy, you'd only see message 10. To see message 9, you clicked on a previous button, wait 30 sec. Repeat to go back in the message history. To go back to the first message could take you 20 minutes. When I first joined I got screwed up because a match sent me a lengthy mail, and then another quick addendum. I only saw the addendum, and didn't realize that I still had an unread message buried underneath the addendum. She kept referring to stuff, and must have thought it strange that I didn't address her mail, where she had asked some important questions. So we went several messages before I finally tortured myself going back through the message history, rereading her mail to find what I had missed, and behold, here was this important unread message that I had no idea was there. So, the site had important usability issues. Many dead accounts, including mine after I gave up after about 3 months into a one year membership.

Nevertheless, I have heard of people who have liked it or had success with it, but wasn't at all for me.

FWIW, I highly recommend Dr. Warren's books, just not his website. E.g., Finding the Love of Your Life. Lots of good advice. Don't marry someone until you've dated them for at least a year, etc.

gakimmie said:
PS- I've heard from a guy friend of mine that he prefers other online dating sites (over e-harmony). With e-harmony you have to jump through hoops and then answer a bunch of questions via email from potential matches, it can be days before you even get to see their photo. That's a lot of work up-front to finally see a photo...I'm not superficial but I believe physical attraction is important...I prefer to see a photo so that we can get that out of the way up front and then figure out the other stuff.

I actually prefer eHarmony. The exhaustive questionnaire and the higher cost to join definitely weed out the crazies and most of the cheapies. You may be one of the real one on Match.Com. Most women went nuts in describing themselves in their own profiles. I can attest to the fact that a few posted pictures from 10-20 years ago. The founder of eHarmony said he originally did not like the photo idea. But guys kept asking him to add the feature and he did.

just think... because of this promotion i will use E-Harmony, I will then meet my wife and marry... and it will all be thanks to FatWallet.com.. can't wait to tell my kids how i met my wife!

BradCollins said: just think... because of this promotion i will use E-Harmony, I will then meet my wife and marry... and it will all be thanks to FatWallet.com.. can't wait to tell my kids how i met my wife!

Whoa slow down there Jonsey Collins - first you have to get your fat butt off the couch and take a cold shower.

Necromancer said:    I've met a couple of girls that were definitely keepers that you would be hard to find in a club/bar. Can't say that on the other sites.

Did you keep them? Or is your goal not marriage/long term relationship?